A Life Lived in Practice
My work is rooted in lived experience, faith, & the understanding that a woman’s presence shapes the atmosphere of her home.
I guide women from a place of respect, steadiness, safety & femininity— not because I’ve always lived this way, but because I learned it when my own marriage required real change, not surface fixes.
Today, my approach is calm, faith-aligned, and deeply personal. I support women in releasing control, softening into God’s design for the feminine, and rebuilding their relationships. We start with a woman’s relationship with herself, knowing that when a woman shifts, her home begins to change.
I Thought My Husband Was
100% The Problem In Our Marriage.
My work is rooted in lived experience, faith, & the understanding that a woman’s presence shapes the atmosphere of her home.
When I married, we made the decision that I would leave my career in medical device sales to be a full- time wife and mother. Looking back, I realize that after making that decision I struggled to settle into a support role. I struggled with self-care, being dependent on my husband, feeling like I’d lost my identity, and I slipped into high control to feel relevant, heard, worthy and important. My husband and I fought almost every day over the smallest things.
Every day I told him what I perceived was wrong with him. I told him how to run his business, how he should spend his time, how he should drive, dress, eat, drink, parent, and live. I questioned most of his decisions, brought up his past mistakes every chance I got and used his vulnerability or things he shared with me as a weapon. I had an opinion on everything, cut him off when he spoke and spoke over him, corrected him in front of our children and others.
I was overly “helpful” and treated him like my child more than like my spouse, partner and a man. He responded by yelling and being distant and angry. Our home was loud, angry and hostile, but I was sure that if Luke would only change, get mental help and anger management, I would be happy and maybe there would be hope for our marriage. I got a mentor who told me someone had to “go first” in repairing the marriage and it needed to be me. I couldn’t even fathom that.
I resented that concept. I was resentful at the mistakes he had made, his lack of attention, what I perceived as his selfishness and arrogance and I was so tired of feeling unsupported in caring for our three small children while all he did was work and play golf.
It felt like I was standing at the base of Mt. Everest in despair, loneliness and misery & that I could never reach the summit of happiness.
I was completely hopeless.
It felt like divorce was the only way (which I threatened often). It was official that I had married the wrong guy! I thought our miserable marriage was entirely my husband’s fault, that he was the problem and that if he could change there might be hope. What I came to realize was that I had the power to change and save my marriage and create the marriage of my dreams. One day, a friend who knew the struggles I was having in marriage sent me a message that I just had to read the book “The Empowered Wife”.
I wasted no time as I would take any help I could get at that point! I ordered the book and the moment I received it I dove in. From the first page I saw myself! I saw clearly the mistakes I had been making. It was as if the book was written about me!! I felt so saddened by my lack of awareness and all the mistakes I knew I had made, however, for the first time in my marriage I felt hopeful that there was a solution and this was it! I immediately began to experiment. When Luke asked me what he should wear to an event, I responded “whatever you think!” When he asked me what we should do in a certain parenting situation I replied, “I trust your judgement.” When I was unsure about how to handle a situation with a friend, I asked him to borrow his brain.
My husband looked at me like I was an alien, but he seemed to stand a little bit taller and seemed a bit happier and a bit more affectionate. I couldn’t believe it! It was like magic! A miracle. Even trying just a few of these skills was working! I realized I really did have the power to create the marriage of my dreams. I started taking better care of myself. I stopped trying to control how he lived his life. Things were improving. For a time, I thought I could coast and let up on the skills, but things between us got drastically worse to the point of despair again.
That is when I knew I had to diligently practice the intimacy skills for the rest of my life and that they were the key to a successful marriage. I dove back in, signed up for Relationship Coaches Training and soon we were back to happy again–like when we were dating, but even better. He is constantly doing things to help me and spoil me. He plans and takes us on amazing vacations and jumps at the opportunity to make my desires and dreams come true. Things at 14 years of marriage are better than ever before!
The best news is that the 6 intimacy skills™ are simple and easy to implement and fun if I do say so myself. Private coaching is even better! My coach helps me uncover blind spots and has truly helped me take my marriage to the next level. I love the accountability I have with my coach and it is the best investment I have ever made in myself. They have taught me how to care for myself, how to start doing less and give up control, what respect is and is not, how to receive graciously, live in gratitude, express my desires, be vulnerable and magnetic. Today I feel so feminine, and I feel like a Disney princess.
Today I am happier than I have ever been, and the only thing that has changed is me and my perspective.
If you feel like you are running the show or you’re lonely, unsupported, or you can’t figure out why your husband no longer pays attention to you, or maybe it feels like he doesn’t even like you, I know what that’s like. I was blind to the fact that there were things in me that needed to change. It was worth the time and effort to learn the intimacy skills and be restored to a woman of dignity and grace.
I am so grateful that I surrendered, invested in myself, sought support and surrounded myself with a group of like-minded women. Now I’m on a journey to coach women into the marriage of their dreams and to end world divorce.
Today I feel joyful, dignified, in love with my husband, cared for and I realize that the power to create my reality lies with me.